Have you ever wished you could choose your family members? Maybe you’d pick a less annoying little brother. Or a sister who actually shares her clothes with you. Maybe or you it would be parents who had fewer rules. Regardless of what your “ideal” family might look like, we all know that we can’t choose our family. And even though we think things might be easier if we could, the truth is that, when it comes to family, there’s always going to be conflict. Why? Because the closer you are to someone, the more likely you are to fight. That’s just part of it! But we have the ability to make a powerful move in our relationships that can push us away from conflict and bring us back to resolution. Jesus points us towards exactly what we can do to promote peace in our relationships. And, even though it might not be easy, it’s the move that has the power to change our families for the better.
When your family fights, your move is to forgive.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:43-44 NIV).
Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!” (Matthew 18:21-22 NLT).
Questions to Ask at Home
- What drives you crazy about your siblings?
- When you're an adult, what do you want your relationship with your siblings to be like?
- What's one way you'd feel comfortable telling or showing your siblings that you love them?