Yes or No?: High School Small Groups 3.13.16

This week we are wrapping up our series on dating called Dateable. Check out what we talked about this week.

Session Summary

You can't talk about great dating without talking about decisions you'll make with your body. God invented sex. It was His idea, and He's a big fan of it (yay, God). Because sex was His idea, He also knows all of the problems that having sex outside of His design can bring into our lives. Why is it that people are deciding not to wait? The reasons to wait don't seem all that convincing. And many of them seem untrue. But the big reason we've been told we should wait is this: God says so. But why does God say so? Why does God say it's best?

Jesus places huge importance on these two things: Loving God and loving others as ourselves. So the question is, how is waiting connected to loving your neighbor? Sex is powerful enough to change the nature of a relationship. And it's powerful enough to hurt someone emotionally. Waiting is protecting someone. It's putting someone else's best interests above your own. I realize that some of you already get that sex can change a relationship. And maybe you know because you've been there already. I want to challenge you to believe that what Jesus says about you is true, you are accepted and loved. And, you can make a new decision.

Whether you've had sex or not, this decision isn't' easy. It's important for you to think through this decision before you're in a situation where it gets complicated. Love your neighbor as yourself. It's great advice for life. And it's the best advice you'll ever hear for dating without regret.

Bottom Line

When God says "no," it's because He has a better "yes" in mind.


"Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” -Mark 12:30-31 NIV

Continue the Conversation: Questions for Family Discussion at Home.

  • What are some of the reasons you've heard why someone should wait until marriage to have sex? What are some reasons you've heard why someone shouldn't wait?
  • In what ways does sex change the nature of a relationship?
  • How does waiting to have sex until marriage show love for other people?
  • Even if you're not dating someone, why is it a good idea to decide ahead of time what you believe about sex?