Today was week 3 in our Dateable series, see what we talked about this week in high school small groups.
Most of you aren't looking for "the one" person to marry while you walk down the hall at school. But you wouldn't mind finding someone to spend time with now. But there's a problem with that, isn't there? Finding that someone isn't easy. Even when you do find the right person, it sometimes doesn't take long for them to become a not-so-right-for-you person. Sometimes we should focus instead on becoming the right person.
There is a specific list in the Bible that I want you to reflect on. Think of this list as your goals for the kind of person you want to become, not just the kind of person you want to find or date.
- Love is patient.
- Love is kind.
- Love does not envy.
- Love does not boast. It is not proud.
- Love does not dishonor others.
- Love is not self-seeking.
By focusing on things like becoming patient, kind, humble, and selfless, you become more dateable now and later.
You are at a huge advantage when you make an effort to do this now, because you won't find yourself living with regret later. You can do this if you decide to say, "God, from this moment forward, I'm not just thinking about my list. I want to become someone different, someone who reflects all the things that You say matter most."
Becoming someone > finding someone
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. -1 Corinthians 13:4-5 NIV
Continue the Conversation: Family Discussion Questions for at Home
- What qualities do you look for in someone you'd like to date?
- What's one way a person can be patient when it comes to dating?
- The Bible says, "Love does not envy." What's the opposite of being an envious person?
- Whether or not you're dating someone, how will your future be impacted if you decide to practice these qualities today?