Let's Talk about Pornography: Middle School Small Groups

Week 3 of our series The Talk, and this week is about pornography. 

Session Summary

We've already talked about how sex is good and sex is powerful. Last week, we said what happens online doesn't stay online. Viewing porn has some very real effects on our relationship with God, our future relationships with others and our relationship with ourselves. 1 John 1 says God is light, but living in darkness makes it impossible to have a close, intimate relationship with Him because darkness separates us from God. To get back in the light, a close relationship with God, we simply confess our secrets and sins to Him. There's something powerful about dragging a secret out of the darkness and into the light. Secrets lose their power. Relationships are restored.

Bottom Line

What happens in secret can cause separation.


This is the message we heard from Jesus and now declare to you: God is light, and there is no darkness in him at all. So we are lying if we say we have fellowship with God but go on living in spiritual darkness; we are not practicing the truth. But if we are living in the light, as God is in the light, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin. If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. If we claim we have not sinned, we are calling God a liar and showing that his word has no place in our hearts. - 1 John 1:5-10 NLT

Continue the Conversation: Discussion Questions for Families at Home

  • What is the hardest part about keeping a secret about someone else?
  • What are the rules in your house about using technology and the internet?
  • Do you think pornography use happens with people your age or in your middle school?
  • What are some ways viewing porn can affect our relationships with God?
  • What are some ways viewing porn can affect the way we see or feel about ourselves?