How Does Change Take Place?
Although parents need to be careful not to focus on behavior alone, it’s important to realize that sometimes a change in behavior can change the heart.
Ideally, we change from the inside out, adjusting the heart and giving God greater control, resulting in outward change. But that isn’t how it always works, with children or adults.
In the Bible we read God’s commands for behavior—and his expectation of obedience. These commands are important not just for their external value, but because obeying brings inner change as well.
Sometimes We Just Need to DO IT!
Sometimes people just don’t feel like doing what’s right. Does that excuse their behavior? After all, they don’t want to be hypocrites, and since they don’t feel like doing what’s right, maybe they should continue to do the wrong thing until their hearts change. Of course the faulty reasoning here is obvious. Even if you don’t feel like it, you need to do the right thing.
Hard Work is Hard Work so Be Prepared for Resistance
Many of the chores children do are a struggle for them. Unless your kids are exceptional, they get frustrated with work and view cleaning their rooms, washing the dishes, or mowing the lawn as an intrusion into their lives. In those moments, pray for heart change, talk about deeper issues, but continue to hold the line.
Unfortunately some parents believe that the most important thing is to help kids enjoy life. They try to make their kids happy, provide the latest gadgets, and try to make their lives easy. The problem is that the easy life often weakens character and ends up with an unhappy life in the end.
Children who learn to work hard are eventually surprised by the amount of work they can do, but it takes time. By teaching children how to fulfill their responsibilities, even when they don’t feel like it, develops the character quality of perseverance in their hearts.
Parenting is HARD WORK
As parents, we often don't want to do the work of parenting because it is hard. But we must realize that it is also HEART work.
This parenting tip comes from the book Parenting is Heart Work by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.